Leo Tolstoy once wrote, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
The same is true of every instance of adultery. The church tends to preach that there is one formula for dealing with adultery (or, in some traditions, one formula if you’re a woman and another formula if you’re a man). But adultery can’t be “solved” by applying the right formula. It’s a more complicated and emotional conversation. Nearly all of us have firsthand or secondhand experience with adultery—in a present or previous relationship; between parents or siblings or close friends. But we rarely talk about the frameworks that allow us to move through and beyond the pain of adultery.
Here are four guideposts the church should raise on the impact and consequences of adultery.
1. Adultery is a choice. Continue reading